Change of Life … what matters to me now
by Peggy Browning
It’s time for a change again. Honestly I go through a major change of life about once every 5 years or so.
However, in the last five years, I have made more changes than I thought I was capable of. I sold the house I loved, moved to another state, quit the job that was supposed to give me pension and sustain me through the rest of my life.
Almost five years ago, I started a blog written specifically for women who were over 50. I wrote a book about how turning 50 had given me a boost toward living a fuller life. I wanted to share that little bit of insight with other women. I was a bit before my time, as I usually am with any good idea that I find I want to do.
Being “before my time” doesn’t mean I’m a great success at anything. It usually means that I start a project…nobody likes it…I quit…then other people come along and make a success of a version of my idea. Not that they are stealing my idea. It’s not that at all. It’s just that good ideas are floating out in the Universe and lots of people pick up on those ideas.
What I’ve found out about the over-50 blogs is that they are a lot like Facebook. Everybody has an incredibly fashionable, totally spiritual, amazingly healthy and happy life on their blog. They eat off the good china, have goddess spa days, and treat themselves like the special people they are. The life that’s being touted as aging with style, aging with panache, aging with youth and vigor intact…well, it’s like a Being Over 50 is Great club. Clubs have rules… like how to look younger, how to have better sex even though you are not that interested but you know young people are so you try to be too, how to dress appropriately, how to wear your hair, and how to apply your make-up.
I’ve spent my life trying to wriggle free of rules. I see no reason to start following rules now. It takes all the fun out of things.
Change of life. Again.
Anyway…I am now 60 years old. And I’m feeling very different than I did ten years ago. I feel like I’ve been there, done that, settled a lot of questions about life and love and whatnot. I’m now tired of encouraging women to seek their own way, to be mindful, and to follow their dreams.
My unsettled thoughts and feelings are now suddenly settled since this last birthday. When I was 50 and 50+ I was trying to follow a dream and re-set my life’s course. And I did it.
Now I’m tired of talking about it. I just want to live this crazy little life I’m engaged in. I’m having fun.
Another Change of life
Maybe 60 is the Magic Age. Could be. But, I won’t be talking about how great being 60 is. I’m just going to enjoy it.
So I’m changing the premise of my website and blog. I’m just going to write about what I want to write about. That means I’ll be posting stories about where I go and what I did and what I read and what I cooked. I’m just writing about what I enjoy.
And I enjoy a lot of things.
I enjoy exploring this new place where I live. I enjoy meeting new people and hearing their stories. I enjoy following the crazy politics of the state of Oklahoma. I enjoy writing and telling stories.
And one more change of life.
I will no longer be telling anyone how to age gracefully and gratefully. I’m just going to live my life and write about what concerns me.
And the rest of you folks under 60 are on your own because I’m not making any rules for you to follow!
Go forth and be happy. Or don’t. It’s your choice…and I have no advice to give you about how to act, dress, or have sex.
Stop by and visit with me sometime. I will be right here, telling long-winded stories about the things I see and the people I meet and the things that matter to me.