Resolved: Make No 2017 New Year’s Resolutions
At the beginning of this New Year I am making no new 2017 New Year’s resolutions. Except maybe that I will continue doing what I’m already doing.
I know 2016 was a rotten year for many people. But it was a pretty good personal one for me even though Hillary Clinton lost the Presidential election. Now my stoic old heart is broken and the whole country is DOOMED. (I’m STILL With Her, by the way.)
I stopped worrying about what other people think of me. I finally like me…and really…isn’t that enough?
- I stopped putting myself down. No, I didn’t suddenly become an arrogant asshole. I merely stopped saying self-deprecating things, trying to make other people feel OK by pointing out all my flaws. I finally learned that when I do that, all they can see is my flaws. And they think less of me for them. I still tell funny stories about myself, but not to make other people feel better. I no longer spill the beans on all my insecurities.
- Ironically, I also stopped telling other people the “great things” I have done. I stopped being so insecure that I had to point out that I also might, maybe, possibly be worthy of their attention.
- I stopped worrying about how I look. Yes…I still shower and wash my hair and occasionally wear make-up. I quit reading articles about how to look younger. I am 61 years old and I am quite fine with that, thank you very much. I look like I’m 61…and I am fine with that as well.
- I stopped focusing on how fat I am. I bought some larger pants that feel good when I wear them. Yes, they have elastic in the waist and I am grateful for that. It leaves my mind open to think about things I like to think about, like:
how good the winter sun feels on my face,
planning a doll house and making the furniture,
illustrating a book,
taking a walk,
reading a good book,
and hanging out with my grandkids.
I no longer focus on my uncomfortable britches. 🙂 🙂 🙂 Whew!
- I stopped making excuses. If I don’t want to do something and I’m questioned about it, I say “Because I don’t want to.” If I want to do something…and someone questions me about my choices, I answer “Because I want to.” Next Question.
- In 2016 I spent a lot of time thinking, laughing, working at things I enjoyed, writing, pursuing what is really important to me, traveling to places I’d never been, and looking at eagles and stars in the sky. It made me happy. Very happy indeed.
Some of the best advice I’ve ever heeded is this: Find what makes you happy and do more of that.
I did. I am. And in 2017, I think I’ll just keep on doing that.